I’d like to share with you what the current reality actually looks like at the Sharikov residence.
When people asked me what I’m most nervous about when the second baby comes along, my answer was simple: balance. My biggest fear was not being able to divide equal attention to both my girls. Not being able to catch one fall because I’m with the other. Or even witness one’s milestones. To be there 100% for both the girls is nearly impossible.
For me to succeed as a mother means to fully be there when they need them. To help them find their God-given purpose. To be fully present to my best ability. The only way I can accomplish those things is by asking God for wisdom and guidance.
After being discharged from the hospital, we came home to reunite with our toddler, Josephine. Our two daughters meeting each other for the first time was such a precious moment. Suddenly, Josie became almost unrecognizable. She seemed so grown up and different in a good way. It made me emotional about having to split attention between my two girls. It’s because they deserve more than that! That night and the following, Josie left to her grandparents house for a sleepover.
The first two nights at home with the baby were easy - breezy. Simone kept sleeping her new life away while my duty was to keep her awake while nursing. Teddy was the husband of the year and took exceptional care of the baby and I. It was peacefully quiet until Hurricane Josie arrived back home.
Teddy’s paternity leave was over after two days; suddenly, I became outnumbered. Josie quickly “forgot” how to manage daily tasks on her own. She was unable to brush teeth, wash her hands, or even use the bathroom on her own. Her self-care routine grew into a problem instead of being an enjoyment. She also got carried away with the “reverse psychology game.”
Josie acting up really upset me in the beginning. I was asking God for patience, guidance, and extra love. Prayer really works! I began to learn to understand why she’s acting the way that she is. Bringing a new baby home can be traumatic for the “only child.” She missed all the attention. She just wanted to be understood. After 3-4 days of struggling, things began to settle down and we were back to being best friends. She began helping out without being asked. She’s always there to watch and learn. It's so cute how Josie sings to calm down Simone.
A week later, our life is starting to feel normal again. I’m getting the hang of the routine and surprisingly, managing it well until my next “breakdown.” During Simone’s naps, Josie and I spend a lot of quality time together. I try my best to be fully present and soak in every moment.
I’m starting to get comfy in my messy house which is so unlike me! Cleaning happens when Simone is asleep and Josie stays busy. But skipping meals is not an option. I need all the fuel to have enough energy to keep my girls alive and my husband happy.
I wouldn’t change my life for anything. Having a family is my dream come true. I hope you all get to experience what it’s like to be a mother. It’s the most beautiful challenge!